The settlers in Virginia were different than the settlers of New England

  • in Virginia it was all about private business and individualism

  • in Massachusetts there was a feeling of cooperation they all wanted to build a new Zion

    • the Puritan named Ann Broadstreet was a poet and talks about love in marriage.
    • Puritans believed they should bring up their children properly with moral characters the state had a big role and family obligations
    • behavior that was improper and against public morality was illegal

    • there was no separation between church and state

      essay the godly family of colonial Massachusetts by Steven Mintz and Susan Kellogg

      • the Puritans never thought about a family as a private thing separated from a community
      • a third of all Puritan houses took in apprentices and servants
      • convicts, children of the poor, single men and women and immigrants lived with families so they would behave properly
      • almost everyone was related to each other
      • distant relatives were still considered close family
      • people relied on relatives so that everyone would be honest in business so they married each other so they would be honest not for love
      • people married for alliances and economic partnerships
      • brothers and sisters and cousins married to keep money in the family
      • a few families had control of everything in the church and politically
      • seven families are known as the River Gods controlled just about everything
      • the household not individuals were fundamental unit of society
      • Each family gets 1 vote normally the husband uses it
      • Patriarchy is when the father is in charge of everything
      • each family member was expected to become a moneymaker
      • older kids gardened herded animals spun wool and cared for younger brothers and sisters
      • Deputy Husbands are what they called wives
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      • Wives had 6 kids but less than half lived
      • wives raised children sewed and supervised servants paid bills cultivated crops and marketed surplus goods
      • you had to read household prayers if you were the head of the house
      • the Puritans took care of orphans and sick and elderly
      • the Puritans punished people that didn’t follow the moral rules
      • tithingmen were appointed to oversee every 10 to 12 houses to make sure married people were happy and parents disciplined their children
      • you could be excommunicated from the church but you’re thrown out if you didn’t follow the rules
      • if you cheat on your spouse you had to wear the letter a you could be put to death with
      • many children died so many generations in one house was usual
      • half of all the marriage is ended by death of the spouse after just 17 to 19 years
      • command couldn’t marry until they received an inheritance on their father’s death
      • Puritans believed in patriarchy which meant the father was in charge of everything
      • women couldn’t vote or question the church
      • women did have legal rights and protections
      • women hardly ever divorced their husbands because it was risky
      • they believed affection would come after marriage see didn’t have to love your husband
      • a Dowry is when a wife had to bring in half the money of what the husband brought to the marriage
      • wives had to be submissive you allowed to be your wife or poison them and you got a fine
      • women had generally six children
      • most marriages last 24 years people remarried after their spouse dies
      • 10% of children died as babies
      • 2-year-old children were expected to be good 7-year-old boys wore adult clothing
      • as teenagers most children were cared for by adults other than their own parents they are fostered out as servants or apprentices were sent to boarding schools
      • many married generally when they were over 25 and very few women married before age 20
      • family had a significance that it lacked in Europe the first settlers lived a long time compared to others in England
      • marriages lasted far longer than they did in England
      • moving to the new world strengthen families
      • very few sons moved away from their fathers families in New England were more stable and disciplined and cohesive units then in England